Its two days short of one month since Brendan’s initial consultation with his doctor at Sydney’s Lifehouse. It’s three weeks and four days since his biopsy and one week tomorrow since we received the biopsy results, and heard the life changing news that he has a sarcoma in his right femur [it is the primary cancer]. We will know soon what the next course of action is. I spoke to Molly today, a pleasant, helpful girl in Bren’s Orthopaedic Surgeons office, and she has assured me that he will let us know what’s happening as soon as possible. I expect we will hear by tomorrow.
I know everything is unfolding as it should, divine timing in all things, but the waiting is truly a lesson in patience and a forced opportunity to put all of my energy therapy teachings into practice. And it sucks! Throughout the past month Brendan has remained calm, upbeat and incredibly strong. I wonder, often, if I were in his shoes would I show that much courage. I hope I would. This is challenging, frustrating and at the moment out of our control. But we are hanging in there — taking things one day at a time.
Besides Brendan’s personal strength and grace, there are a few things that seem to be getting him [and those of us who love him] through at the moment; the love, support, kindness and generosity of family, friends and our community for sure. And our ability to laugh and maintain a sense of normality in everything we do… in any way we can. We put “keeping things normal” at the top of our ‘to do’ list.
It doesn’t matter if we are catching up with friends and laughing about life in general, listening to the kids playing in the street with the neighbourhood kids while we get chores done, or just the four of us hanging out in the backyard having a picnic lunch in the sun. We are doing all those little things everyday that make life extraordinary…as we wait! All that said — the waiting is stressful and I’ll say it again, it sucks!
While we’re waiting …life’s still good and hope is limitless: but even that doesn’t make the waiting suck less!
NB: this is an archived post written in 2014 transferred from a previous blogging format